Thursday, August 8, 2013

Headship Never Means Abuse

J. Lee Grady hits another one out of the park: "The Dark Side of Wives Submitting to Husbands:
Christian teaching on male headship is often used as a weapon against women. This abuse must be confronted....
..Truly Christian marriages, according to the apostle Paul, involve a tender, servant-hearted and unselfish husband who (1) loves his wife "just as Christ also loved the church"; (2) loves her as his own body; and (3) loves her as himself (see Eph. 5:25, 28 and 33). He stands alongside his wife in faithfulness, and she joyfully respects her husband because he can be trusted. And the two become one.
Read it all at the link. I believe in biblical submission, and in complementarian marriage, but have nothing but contempt for any man who misuses those principles to physically or emotionally abuse his wife. The Bible puts a heavier responsibility on husbands than on wives: To love them as Christ loves us. Church leaders need to preach that, and confront men who turn authority into abusive domination.